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Through Book – It’s Not Just Super
Super glue
“It’s not just super it’s fantastic!”
8cm 7mm
Spock received a jolt of gamma-less rays and is now silly-putty.
Uhura sent Calvin a subliminal message.
In his tree house in South Uxbridge Calvin received the message.
With is strato-cruiser at 8 psi (fizz-1) Calvin had planned the interception of the Romulans on the desert planet of Turg.
Turg featured man-eating cacti and burrowing nurtegs as well as vrombies.
On an earlier journey Calvin had befriended the vrombies.
The vrombies had sent the Count to the meeting in Transylavavian (their spelling).
Count Draconia was still the leader of the vrombies.
Identity Formation
It’s a scary world out there. In a scary world I like to have control over what I do have control over. Yes, even the illusion of control is great. I do realize most of the control we exercise over ourselves and environment is just an illusion, but I find comfort in making order on my chaos.
This is why I can sort of understand the easy solution of trying to protect your kids by trying control them and everything around them.
I’m happy that my parents had the courage to let me make a lot of my own choices when I was young. Yes, I am VERY happy for all of the mistakes they let me make too. It’s how we learn to be us.
I remember being in first grade and one day deciding I wasn’t going to wear what my mom had laid out for me to put on for school that day. From now on, I was going to choose my own clothes. I also remember figuring out why you dress in layers. One day I wore a long sleeve sweat shirt because I was cold in the morning. I had a few good hours in the afternoon to regret that decision and realize the wisdom of putting on a shirt under the sweatshirt. It’s not like I wasn’t told, but apparently I needed to learn that lesson the hard way.
That being said, there’s a lot of things out there that are not right and wrong so much as right for me, which might not be right for you. I hope if I one day become a parent that my children will share my values. We all do. I hope even more that I’ll be able to let them find those values on their own. I hope that if they disagree, I have the open mindedness to let them. I hope I won’t judge too harshly as they change their mind again and again as people do as they grow up.
Children are going to say, do, and believe some dumb things. I don’t want my kids to, but they will. I don’t want to judge them if they are different, but I’m only human and I will. I just want the courage to let them. Overall, I want them to be individuals. I want them to be self-sufficient, whole people. When I wonder how I became that way, I know it’s because I was allowed to say, do, and believe things my parents thought were dumb. And yes, as an adult, there are still some things that I day, do, and believe that I’m sure they think are dumb.
For all the ways I am different, I can say I have become a self-sufficient and whole person as much as through the guidance of my parents as through them being able to stop themselves from always intervening. Thank you for letting me fight my own battles. Thank you for letting me be me. I know it must have been scary, painful to watch at times, and even just annoying.
I can only hope that I also have that courage if I too one day become a parent. Even if a kid grows up and is a little embarrassed for doing something dumb, good for those parents who gave him the freedom to be a kid, figure things out, and be happy.
A Dark Blue One
“I only own one gi, and it’s getting pretty old, dirty, starting to fall apart. I want to get one of the dark blue ones, but I don’t see many. Do you think you have any in my size?”
“Why blue?”
“White looks dirty very easily. My pants are pretty much permanently gray. I have a black cat to boot.”
“I like them. Forces people to wash them.”
“They look dirty even when do wash them, though.”
“Ever seen the pink gis?”
“YES! Yuck. I don’t think I’ve never seen anyone in one though except for the internet. Do women actually wear those?”
“Yeah, when I was in California there was a all women’s class of like 30, all happily rolling in their pink gis.”
“Well, no pink and co-ed classes here, and I prefer it that way.”
“We can order you a gi and you won’t have to pay shipping. Just look on the Gracie website. Did you want to get that in a women’s size?”
“Women’s size? Do they have a different sizing system? I think this one is like an A2 or A3. I’m having a hard time finding a tag where it isn’t completely worn off.”
“Yes, they do have women’s sizes and the gis fit different.”
“Cool. What colors do they have? Do they have the dark blue.”
“No. They only have them in pink.”
“…so that class of women? How do you know they were happy to wear pink if they only had the option was pink or a gi that doesn’t fit right? Maybe they’re actually all angry and feel ridiculous in their pink gis?”
“So… you don’t want a pink gi?”
“…nah, I want a dark blue one. A pink one probably still won’t fit right anyways. It’s not like most womens’ pants do.”
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